How am I supposed to decide whether to transfer schools or not? Are the connections I have made more important than going somewhere that could provide me with a better education for my future career?  How am I supposed to not feel guilty when leaving my new connections behind? 

I’m so glad you asked, so many people go through this decision process at some point during their college career. The hardest part of this is taking into account all the different aspects that can persuade your decision. 

The first thing is to acknowledge the importance of a decision like this. However, you cannot stress yourself out over this decision. While this is a big decision affecting what kind of education you will get, it will not limit what you can do in the future. There are schools that are known for specializing in certain subjects, and when people see that kind of school on your record they may view you as more qualified. However, what you do with your degree will impress them more than where you went. 

Another thing you need to think about is your type of learning. Different schools focus on different ways of learning. The best schools try to accommodate all styles of learning. 

As for your worries about the connections you have made, what will happen to those is fully dependent on you. Regardless of if you switch schools, you have the power to change and control all of your relationships. Some people are not good at long distance. Out of sight out of mind is the best saying to describe this. So you need to think of how important the relationships are to you, and what kind of communicator you are. 

If you are not good with long distance and these relationships are really important to you then you might want to think about staying at your current school. But for some people each relationship only lasts for a moment in your life. So it may be better for you to leave and try to keep communication, while also acknowledging the relationship will never be the same and may not last forever. 

Ultimately the choice comes down to what is best for you. A school may be able to offer you more for your career, but if the environment is not one that you feel comfortable in, do not force yourself into that environment. You may have to work harder to get to the same place, but you need to think about your happiness and comfort. It’s more important to love the life you live than to live a life you try to love.

Do you need some advice? Are people in your life too indecisive? 

Do you need a new point of view?

Just email me at zdplizg@pointpark.edu