Valentine’s Day nears; students share first kiss stories

Written By Hattie Charney

Preteen Bryanna Madden devised a plan with her friend at a middle school dance when she engaged in her first kiss, even if it wasn’t the best.

Kristopher Chandler was surrounded on the dance floor when he leaned in to kiss the girl in the blue dress.

Michael Diaz experienced his awkward first kiss after a little help from his father.

While first kisses are sometimes sloppy, or unsettling or delicious, one thing is certain as Valentine’s Day approaches: almost everyone remembers first kisses for the rest of their lives, according to a neuroscientist who has studied smooching.

That scientist, Sebastion Seung, in his book “Connectome: How the Brain’s Wiring Makes Us Who We Are,” said our brains act as a map of different connections. When it comes to kissing, the neurons in our brain fuse together to form a lasting memory. These connections make some memories last longer than others depending on how deeply they effect the person’s life.

The map of the entire brain including the neural connections is known as a connectome. The brain has a way of wiring and rewiring together the neutrons. If a little girl sees a dog, a certain set of neurons fire. Each time these neurons fire together, the connection between them grow stronger forming a memory.

According to a study done by a University of Texas biologist, most people remember about 90 percent of the details of their first kiss.

Madden’s first kiss occurred while she was attempting to scare and embarrass her friends at a school formal. Madden recalls her friends and her going to formal as a group.

After traveling to the snack line, her friend and Madden decided to creep out their friends by dirty dancing and making out at the formal.

“We went in front of all of our friends and we tried to do a full blown make-out session, which ended with just us pecking and moving on.”

In the end Madden’s friends were thoroughly creeped out and Madden wouldn’t change her first kiss.

“It was warm and wet,” Madden said.

Being in the middle of the dance floor, surrounded by on-looking classmates, Chandler and his blue dress wearing “love interest” engaged in his first kiss.

Chandler said he wanted it to happen beforehand but it just wasn’t the right moment. Then that right moment came along and he kissed her. They continued to dance until the end of the song.

“I went back to my little flock of friends and she went back to her little flock of friends and did the whole high school thing like ‘Oh my God!’ Very cliché.”

Chandler doesn’t regret the kiss but he would easily change the blue dress girl he had the kiss with. He just didn’t like her.

Diaz had some help from his father when he had his first kiss. Diaz recalls dating a girl in middle school whose mother was best friends with his own mother.

One afternoon, Diaz was sitting on his couch at home with his girlfriend while his little sister sitting on the ground in front of them. Diaz said his father knew he wanted some privacy so his father convinced his little sister to play video games in another room.

“I was scared and I wasn’t scared because my dad took away the problem, my sister, and then everything was good. It doesn’t get any better than having your first kiss in your own home.”

Diaz said the relationship didn’t last long after their first kiss but that he still is in contact with her through his mother.

Rania Draklellis was just trying to cool down outside of her friend’s sweet sixteen birthday party when her friend, Greg, kissed her.

“Greg is gay and I knew it and he knew it at the time and it was just common knowledge to all people.”

Draklellis says that Greg was making fun of her for never having kissed anyone so he decided to be her first. She rationalizes that Greg did it because she wanted to get it over with. Draklellis wasn’t impressed by her first kiss and knew nothing was going to come out of it.

“All your friends who have done things before you, like sex and first kisses, they talk about it so much and build it up and then you’re like ‘Oh, like that was it?’ it was like okay this is done and now I can move onto my next conquest.”

In Sheril Kirshenbaum’s book, “The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips are Telling Us,” she says that people relate their first kiss to being the introduction to our sexual behavior and everything that comes with that.

Kirshenbaum says that we engage our senses when we kiss someone. A first kiss can make or break a relationship and decide where it will go.

Seung and Kirshenbaum have proved through research that although we may not remember all the details to our first kiss, we still remember how it marked our ascension into adulthood.