How do I handle drastic changes in my life? What is the best thing to do when you feel lost? How do I get back on top of my school work? How do I find my place when I am being moved around and around? Is it stupid to feel unwanted and unlucky? When do I call it quits and start reevaluating my decisions?
Excellent questions. To those being moved around in the housing debacle, I want to say I am sorry for what happened and I am wishing you all the best.
When it comes to dealing with big life changes, there is no precise formula for moving through events without dealing with a good amount of struggle. Consider trying to face the issue head on and let your emotions out either on a page or through physical activity.
Once you have cleared your mind, look at the situation with a fresh perspective. I try to understand every little thing that went down to put this shift in my path. Then, instead of focusing yourself back on to the same path, look forward to a new path with the new desired outcome.
As things change, we grow, and it’s good to keep developing new dreams or, at the very least, new ways of achieving the same dreams.
I have a slightly different view of getting lost than most people. Personally, if I get lost, I say you should stay lost. Why? The more you lose yourself, the more you can learn about yourself.
Honestly, we all get lost in this world, and we are all constantly growing. If you keep yourself on one path and do not allow any deviation, then you can barely grow.
Getting back on top of your school work can be hard sometimes. The best way for me to go back into the swing of things with my assignments is to book some time in a study room and leave my phone powered off while I lock in on my work. It also helps to have work planned out.
When it comes to finding your place, I say start with finding one person. If you can find one person that you have a lot in common with or at the very least share one opinion with, then you have found someone who may lead you to your friend group or place. A lot of my friends met each other through me and now they are close friends. Sometimes one person can lead you to all your people, and together you can create your own place.
I want to make it extremely clear that no matter the emotion you are feeling you have a right to feel it, and it’s not stupid to feel. You might feel disconnected being bounced between new places, but it’s important to not let yourself lose the people that love you. No matter what, you are always wanted somewhere.
I do not like to use the word quit. It often is thought of as a bad thing. But sometimes the best thing a person can do is to stop trying and look for something new. If what you are doing is not fulfilling you, then it is wise to look for something that can truly make you happy. Try to remember when you start reevaluating things that you have not wasted your time; sometimes you need to go through an event to move forward in your life.
Do you need some advice? Are people in your life too indecisive?
Do you need a new point of view?
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