How do I deal with getting ghosted? How do I cope from being blocked? What is wrong with me if everyone keeps abandoning me? How can I keep people from leaving me? Is it stupid to chase after someone who leaves you? What is the point in fighting for someone if they aren’t fighting for you too? Is it wrong to want love above all else?
Great questions. I know love can be really complex and can be overly romanticised in the media. It can be cliché but it is best to let love find you, otherwise it is often more painful than beautiful.
Ghosting is an awful thing that many people in our generation rely on to avoid conflict and make it easier to get out of situations they often create themselves. It is often the weakest people that resort to ghosting people when a relationship sours because they have not matured enough to handle difficult conversations.
Sometimes getting blocked can be a good thing, and other times it can be extremely disheartening. If you find yourself obsessing with someone else’s actions, then maybe getting blocked was the way to break free. However, sometimes people will just block you out of the blue because they are going through something or just not ready for the kind of attention that you offer.
There is nothing wrong with you just because some people are not open to a relationship at the moment. It is important to remember that you cannot base your own self worth or happiness on other people. This needs to be something you can self-sustain so you don’t become co-dependent on others.
Chasing after someone you love is not stupid, but sometimes it can be exhausting putting in all your effort to be with someone. If they are not putting in the same amount of effort into being with you, then it might be smart to let go of that person. If someone does not put in the same effort as you do, then they are not worth your time and love.
Having to fight for the person you love is common, as most relationships require hard work. If the relationship does not have a balance of give and take, if it just feels like you’re pouring your energy into something only to get nothing in return, then it really is not worth the effort to fight for. And sometimes you just have to fight for something because it feels right. Remember to not let it consume you.
Love is something we all crave, but only the lucky few truly find the purest love. I understand the overwhelming need to feel loved, but when you really feel that way, it is the worst time to be looking for it. You want the love that happens naturally and finds you when it is right. I know it is hard to wait for the passion you dream of, but it makes it far more worth it when you find it in the end.
Do you need some advice? Are people in your life too indecisive?
Do you need a new point of view?
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