How do I set meaningful goals? How do I differentiate between realistic goals and unrealistic goals? What are the points of short term goals compared to long term goals? How do I get back on track when my goals get derailed? What do I do when things get overwhelming? How do I cope with the constant changing of life?
Great questions. Life can be very scary and there are lots of stressful interactions that are unavoidable.
I think the biggest thing with goals is knowing how important they are. Goals are a big motivator in life, when we do not have goals we have nothing moving us forward. Our goals are made through our desires; we set goals to achieve what we want in life.
Setting goals is something that has layers. There are short-term goals and long-term goals. Long-term goals are used to create the path of our lives, whereas short-term goals are best for in-the-moment needs or wants. Sometimes short-term goals can also be needed to achieve long-term goals.
The biggest thing when setting goals is being intentional. Make sure not to harm yourself or others while still aligning yourself with your desires. If you follow your passion and keep kindness in your heart, the path you follow will be the right one.
Being lost is a normal thing in life; we do not always know what is best for us as much as we like to claim we do. Sometimes it is best to seek advice when things throw you off the rails. Being open to alternative perspectives is very beneficial; it gives us the ability to see things from a more objective standpoint instead, allowing us to find or be open to solutions we may never have considered on our own.
Implementing new solutions may help with getting us back on the tracks, but it still does not help diminish the stress built up. When we find ourselves overwhelmed and stressed out by everything around us, we have impaired thinking and often try to move past problems without taking time to understand them.
Something I learned is a practice called “Sitting in the Yuck,” a practice used to create a better understanding of our feelings. When you feel an uncomfortable feeling, instead of ignoring it or pushing it down, let yourself feel it. Just say you feel that feeling and remind yourself it’s OK. Accepting feelings of discomfort is the best way to lose your discomfort for the feeling.
Accepting the emotions can build a better connection to them, making it easier to cope with the constant change in life. Keeping yourself open to the world and allowing yourself to have both negative and positive experiences makes all experiences easier to survive through. Life is an ever-changing journey; learning to live through the changes can be hard, but once you are open to them, you will be able to see the beauty behind them all.
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